from If Life Is a Game…These Are the Rules
by Chérie Carter-Scott, Ph.D.
You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called "life." Each day
in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may
like the lessons or hate them, but you have designed them as part of
Why are you here? What is your purpose? Humans
have sought to discover the meaning of life for a very long time. What
we and our ancestors have overlooked, however, in the course of this
endless search, is that there is no one answer. The meaning of life is
different for every individual.
Each person has his or her own
purpose and distinct path, unique and separate from anyone else's. As
you travel your life path, you will be presented with numerous lessons
that you will need to learn in order to fulfill that purpose. The
lessons you are presented with are specific to you; learning these
lessons is the key to discovering and fulfilling the meaning and
relevance of your own life.
Once you have learned the basic
lessons taught to you by your own body, you are ready for a more
advanced teacher: the universe. You will be presented with lessons in
every circumstance that surfaces in your life. When you experience pain,
you learn a lesson. When you feel joy, you learn a different lesson.
For every action or event, there is an accompanying lesson that must be
As you travel through your lifetime, you may encounter challenging
lessons that others don't have to face, while others spend years
struggling with challenges that you don't need to deal with. You may
never know why you are blessed with a wonderful marriage, while your
friends suffer through bitter arguments and painful divorces, just as
you cannot be sure why you struggle financially while your peers enjoy
abundance. The only thing you can count on for certain is that you will
be presented with all the lessons that you specifically need to learn;
whether you choose to learn them or not is entirely up to you.
The challenge of Rule Two, therefore, is to align yourself with your own
unique path by learning your individual lessons. This is one of the
most difficult challenges you will face in your lifetime, as sometimes
your path will lead you into a life that is radically different from
others. Don't compare your path to those around you and focus on the
disparity between their lessons and yours. You need to remember that you
will only be faced with lessons that you are capable of learning and
are specific to your own growth.
If you are able to rise to this challenge, you can unravel the mystery
of your purpose and actually live it. You cease being a victim of fate
or circumstance and become empowered—life no longer just "happens to
you." When you are working toward fulfilling your true purpose, you
discover astonishing gifts within yourself that you may have never known
you have. This process may not be easy, but the rewards are well worth